"Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly." - Morticia Addams
I always knew I was not like most people but I always saw myself as a typical mom. After all, I want what most moms want: the best for my child. I did everything I should when I was pregnant, hell, I even stopped smoking a year before we even started trying to conceive! I read extensively on pregnancy, birth, and child rearing. I thought I knew everything until the baby was born and I was hit with several curve balls! I always see myself as a normal person and while I do know deep down I don't follow the flock, there are times, I forget that. Especially when I am around children because while children have a natural curiosity, they don't notice differences and that is why I prefer children to most adults any day. Most children don't discriminate. Last Friday, I came to realization that even as a mom, I am not normal! I will never be a "typical mom"
What happened is that it was my turn to attend my son's school on Friday because every week, a different child becomes a celebrity of the day and it is this huge thing for them. After months of waiting, it was finally Philip's turn! The children are sent home with a book a couple of weeks prior to the event and the parents help them complete all the questionnaires. The child have to write information about themselves and draw a bunch of pictures. After wards, they are encouraged to bring in their favourite objects and items they had as a baby. Not only does the child go through the book with the parent, they show articles they had as a baby in front of the class. It is kind of like a show and tell. The kids talk about the things they like/dislike and their classmates get to know them a bit better.
|example from his workbook|
|Another example. I thought this was cute|
When I got into his classroom, I took my coat off. I was wearing a simple short-sleeved black dress, leggings and my Docs. A comfortable outfit for working with kids! I forgot about my tattoo and the children gave various reactions. They also noticed my tongue piercing, which most adults never notice and they asked a lot of questions. I am OK with this. Little people are naturally curious and I answered them the best way I could. Philip looked surprised and he told me "I don't think their mommies or daddies have those things and that's weird, mommy" I can only imagine what those kids told their parents that night!
Don't get me wrong. I have taken Philip to play dates and have conversed with other parents on numerous occasions. We sometimes have the casual jibber jabber and I usually know beforehand how the conversation will go. It is boring but I do it to be polite. Sometimes, if I am lucky, the other parent likes some of the music I listen to or we talk about books, even get into an intellectual conversation. I like those parents yet I don't pick my son's friends. I guess it was a shock for me on Friday to see so many kids surprised that I have tattoos and piercings because I work with heavily tattooed people, I have friends and family members who have tattoos and/or piercings! It seems like more and more people have tattoos and they are becoming mainstream. To me, it was no big deal.
Even during Philip's presentation after showing his two Halloween costumes when he was a baby, one of the kids said "wow, they like lots of Halloween stuff." Children asked what Blutengel was when Philip said that he doesn't have a favourite song but he really likes that band. The children asked me tons of questions and I just smiled and said "it's grown up people music" This didn't help because one kid asked if they play it on a popular radio station here in Montreal (Virgin Radio) and I laughed. I never considered that this might be an issue because the people closest to me know who Blutengel is!
I like that we are not a typical family and that we are a bit odd. Pretty much my entire family is weird, just some of us choose to let our freak flags fly a little more! Philip doesn't have much of a chance at normalcy but at least he will grow up with positive, yet quirky role models . I like it that way. It opens his eyes to the world.