What happened was quite simple: I posted about my personal point of view with regards to being goth and being a tattooed parent. Jane pointed out in the comments that sometimes it could be the opposite. She was called a Mallgoth because she does not have any body modifications. This pissed me off because in all honesty, you don't need tattoos or piercings to be goth! How absurd is that?
I admit, perhaps it was a little close minded on my part for overlooking that side of the fence. This was not done on purpose. For me personally, I never really cared whether or not someone has tattoos.
It also never occurred to me that being goth meant a mandatory tattoo or piercing. I never judged anyone by their appearance or for their beliefs. I have friends from all walks of life and you don't need a dress code to be my friend, you just need to be a good person! I have friends who have very different views than I do. I have Goth friends and some who aren't. I have friends who are the exact opposite from me and we get along! I guess in my naivete, I never considered that this would even be a possibility.
Although her experiences were not very pleasant, I was grateful for her honesty and for allowing me to put my two cents in over here. In fact, I want to express them here:
* While I do dye my hair black because I HATE my natural color, you do not need to do so to be goth.*
*You don't need to have piercings or tattoos to be goth.*
*You can date or marry a non-goth and you yourself can still be goth. Your partner doesn't need or have to be goth. My husband, while normally dresses all in black leans more towards the geek side than goth. *
*As much as I am a believer in how people should know who the original couple of bands are (ie Siouxsie, The Sisters Of Mercy, etc) you don't have to like them to be goth. In fact, a lot of these bands (*cough, cough* Eldritch) reject the goth label, therefore, I like to think there are not really many goth bands out there but lots of goth music, if that makes sense. There is so much more out there too! There's tons of music that came out after the eighties that are awesome to listen to. Cruxshadows, Blutengel, Sopor Aeternus, Switch Blade Symphony are a few bands that come to mind. I bet some of the younger readers could add a few more recent ones to this list! (note to self. Research current goth music. I'm getting old!) ****
I am not taking back what I posted. I love my body art. I want more and I wanted to write about my personal experiences being a mom who has tattoos and who is goth but I don't expect everyone to be like me. In all honesty, that would be boring! I like seeing parents who have body art and/or are goth because well, I am a huge fan of body art and don't know too many fellow goth parents offline. These are my own personal preferences but I really don't care if someone has tattoos or doesn't. Just like I can have fun with people who are not parents. I will still be friends with someone and not judge them over what they decide to do with their bodies because in all honesty, it is none of my business! It was refreshing for me to look at the world through someone else's eyes. Thanks Jane for providing me with that opportunity!
How stereotypes view stereotypes!!!!!