My epiphany has come from the fact that I really don't care what other people think or say about me. I used to. I just don't anymore. I am comfortable with who I am and where I am in my life. There was a time this wasn't such a case.
I like to thank coming back to goth for that. I no longer have to hide and with dressing the way I do, I have heard all sorts of rude comments, especially when I stopped dressing normal. As a result, I developed a thick skin. How I see myself for the good or worse and how I work on my own personal flaws are my business alone. I don't need anyone to dictate to me how to run my life (or to tell me what to wear) for that matter.
Parenthood too has given a thick skin and today's incident is proof.
It is now my morning routine to drop my son, Philip off to school. He has started walking alone to the building with my supervision. There has been mornings he asks me to walk in with him but they have been few and far between. I welcome this independence.
Every morning, he looks unsure and I smile, reassure him then wish him on his way. I watch him walk towards the school and I wave at him.
This morning, a parent stops me. She is with her child. She goes on to lecture me about how I shouldn't allow my little kid to walk on his own. Her daughter is in a much higher grade and she wont let her walk in by herself for safety. I smile, thank her for the advice. In the end, I do not owe her an explanation as to how I choose to raise my child. I am comfortable with my parenting choices. She then says "I know you are really young and all. You may not know any better." This is when I snapped. I responded: "You choose to raise your daughter the way you like, the best to your knowledge by helicoptering over her and that is your business. I choose to do what I think is best for my son. I want to raise him to be an independent, free thinker." I get interrupted by the woman. She says "excuse me, I am not a helicopter parent. Just a responsible one" My response:" Oh ok if you say so. This conversation is over, with that, I wish you a good day and Happy Holidays. Thank you for you advice and input. Bye!" My son reached the school safely by then. No one popped out of nowhere to snatch him up and kidnap him! He made it in safe and sound, all by himself! I got in my car and drove off. Even if I were a teenager or a young adult with a child, what business is it of hers? Does being a young parent necessarily mean that I would be irresponsible or neglectful? What is it to her, anyway? Although arrogant and rude, I do take it as a compliment if she thinks I am really young! I guess I don't look like I am in my mid-thirties! Thank you!
Her advice or her telling me how I should raise my family did not make me second guess my parenting skills. I think the way I handled it was fine, a little too nice even but I thought it would be best to remain polite yet firm. I think she got my subtle message to mind her own damned business! Just sweep your side of the street and stay the hell out of mine!
****Off topic: I recently purchased a beautiful dress from Mary of Mourning Glory Designs. It was supposed to be for my office Christmas party. My son and I got a really bad cold. I ended up not being able to attend the party and have not worn the dress yet. I am waiting until I feel 100% better and not look so crappy, then I plan on doing a full review/ outfit post. I want to do a really nice outfit post and I want to look my best while showing off Mary's hard work. For the record, I LOVE that dress and strongly suggest you check out her etsy store here. I didn't forget about you, Mary! ****