I know I will never be that stereotypical mother in law. I want my son to be independent. He is NOT an extension of myself and I really do want him to have a life of his own one day. All I ask for is the occasional visit and phone call.I will surely miss him once he ventures out on his own and will probably become a crazy cat lady again but that's ok.
Due to some of my past experiences, some people do not see things the way I do. Some people think their adult children have responsibilities to them and their children actually owe them for all the shit they have done for them as a child! Some parents think they can control their adult kids lives. I may not like everyone he decides to go out with later on, or his career choice and I might hate his future spouse with a passion but I am not going to interfere.I will not call 100 times a day and I will most certainly keep my negative comments to myself. It is his life. If he is happy then so am I.
Seeing pictures like this on Facebook, although they are intent on being funny, not only causes me to take a look at myself but it pisses me off. It only perpetuates the stereotypical relationship between a mother in law and daughter in law:
Today, I vow to NOT be that parent. I vow to raise Philip to not only treat people right but to have enough self confidence/respect enough to walk away when he feels like he is being taken advantage of. To my future daughter or son in law: I promise to not be your worse nightmare and hopefully you can feel comfortable enough to come visit me or see me if you need anything. Most importantly, if he chooses you to spend the rest of HIS life with, I know deep down, he has made a right choice so I plan to butt out!