Some people are more blatantly obvious than others with their remarks, some people will call you a silly nickname in guise of only joking. Don't get me wrong, I have a sense of humour and can take a joke. I make fun of myself all the time! You know these people are showing you their sense of disproval, you can tell by their not-so-subtle yet "only joking" remarks. You know they are totally serious, you know they are insulting you but the moment you confront them for being an ass, they play victim. They tell you that you are being overly sensitive or you are doing it for attention. You can't take a joke and my all time favorites are: "it was all a misunderstanding" or "it would be easier if you dressed like everyone else then you wouldn't have to go through this"
I ignore these people but like a bad rash, they keep coming back. They are like tribbles!
|Souce:google images, Star Trek, The Trouble With Tribbles|
These are usually pretty vanilla people. They couldn't conceive a creative thought even if it were to hit them on the face with a shovel!
This is probably why they like to rag on you.
What really rots my socks is when these said people critcize you for doing a certain thing. It could be trivial like giving your kid a mohawk, getting a piercing, tattoo or dying your hair a certain color because it is not within the mainsteam. They do this to your face and behind your back. It becomes a "thing" even though it is none of their business anyway.
Next thing you know, they are doing the same god damn thing as you because some celebrity did it or it is the new fashion trend and they just have to fit in.It annoys me. Mainstream fashion will take something from a subculture, make it trendy and people like these eat it up although they originally criticised you for doing the same thing in the first place. The only difference, they criticised you because you did it before it became trendy. You weren't following the norm. I know, I know, I sound like a Hipster! "I was doing it first!"
I know I shouldn't let it get to me. I should feel priviledged and so forth but I don't. It annoys the crap out of me. I don't follow the latest fashion trends, I wear what I like! I do sometimes get clothing in mainstream stores but that is just because whatever is the "in thing" at that time coincides with the clothing I personally like to wear. Hell, I even buy brand name alternative clothing items. I can't always say that I am "oh so original" yet I express myself with things I like, not to follow what everyone is wearing, even if it is within the subculture. Yes, Gothlings, some of us do it to each other too. I have heard many times. If you like a certain band amongst the other "proper goth bands"or you wear a certain piece of clothing, you are a poseur! Really? That Special Secret Goth Cabal (Thank you Jillian Venters) must be real busy!
I guess you can say, it is the general attitude from these Tribbles, I mean people, that just grate on my nerves. If it is in style, it is ok but the moment you do what you like to do and what makes you happy, out come the pitchforks!
On a more pleasant side, at least I know that I and all those like me, who dances to the beat of their own drum ,will always have a special place in society. We are often known to be innovators and creative geniuses. Note the snarkiness and sarcasm at the genius remark...OK OK...we all know I am a creative genius! So there!