Friday, September 19, 2014
On raising spooky kids or the next (potential) generation of baby bats
I never fully realized the extent of influence I have over my son until recently so I thought I would post about the silly little things we do together that raises eyebrows amongst the more normal people. While I am aware that my opinion may be somewhat biased, I do hope this amuses you as much as it does with me!
We have a game we play where I tell him in French "Maman fait le vampire", which translates as "Mommy does the vampire". The game is quite simple: I kiss him all over his neck and arms because that is where I know it tickles him. This usually results in rough housing or a chase through the house.
He came home from daycare one day and told me he wasn't allowed to play that game at school. I asked him if he tried to "bite" another kid at school. He confirmed that he tried to play vampire and that the other kid got scared. He questioned why a vampire would be scary and why his mom likes scary things. At this age,I kept the answers simple: not everyone is afraid of scary things. Some people, like his parents, actually do like scary things. I asked how he felt about the matter and admitted that he still liked the game and likes scary things himself. I made sure he knew it was OK to not like the same things I like, that I would still love him and be proud of him regardless.
He learned a new song at daycare where the lyrics should sing "fly like a bird" and he would flap his arms like wings. He changed the lyrics to "fly like a bat"
I have these rubber bats that are held on our hall mirror with suction cups. There are two of them. One of them is "mommy bat" and the other one is "Philip bat"
He had an imaginary friend at one point which he called the scary ghost. For the record, my apartment isn't haunted! I think he was referring to Casper the Friendly ghost, by the way.
He loves Halloween themed episodes on TV. You don't know how many times I had to put the Halloween episode of Yo Gabba on for him when watching Netflix
He really likes Joy Division, Voltaire's "Oh My Goth" (he calls it the scary song) and Blutengel. He likes a lot of 80's music as well. For a while, I would play Siouxsie's song "passenger" in the car because we would sing a long together.
Yesterday, his pre-school teacher reminded me that today is International Peace Day and he needs a white shirt to commemorate the event. It could have a design on it, as long as it was white. She asked if we had one and didn't seem surprised at all when I said that he didn't. I laughed and told her that we would go get one at the store. My kid now has one lonely white shirt amongst the darks and colors! Note to self: do NOT wash with the colors, especially red!
He also likes "normal" things most boys his age likes such as Spider Man, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles (so cool) and Legos
While I generally try to encourage him to be his own person and don't expect him to be an extension of myself, I am quite proud of him and his eccentricities!